I am currently on dating websites. SUPER exciting.
Regardless of free (OKCupid, PlentyOfFish) or fee (eHarmony, match), I have found the experience is the same.
I have had twenty something first dates in the last three months. On some days, I have had two first days. Don't be worried or scared for me...I don't do much more than a cup of coffee (I didn't drink coffee when I started my online dating endeavors-but I do now!!!) and I usually only make the interaction 50-60 minutes. More if it's going well...less if it's going poorly...you get the picture.
I always say to my friends, "At least I'm getting a good story out of it..."
Which is true. I love that I am putting myself out there. I think that it's brave of me. I have to have worked through all of my issues to be able to be okay with me on a dating website.
At least that's what I tell myself.
But I don't think that anyone has told some of these guys.
There's the military guy. I met him, we dated for about a month. He called and text me every.day. Every.single.day for a month.
Then he told me he was being deployed to Afghanistan for 6-9 months later this year. And he didn't want to get too involved and we would stop dating altogether when he was deployed...
You are texting me everyday. Calling me everyday.
So I told him that we should stop talking. That I was already getting emotionally attached. That one of us would get hurt and I didn't want it to be me.
But he tried to talk me into sticking around...
Why? So that you can have a play toy for the next 6-9 months until you are deployed?
I love my country and will do my duty, but serving you personally does not fall into that category.
So, that ended the first of my more "relationship-y" interactions from dating websites.
That doesn't even begin to touch the tip of the iceberg.
Remember...there's still 90% more of what we're looking at still left under the water...